10 signs to recognize the "very nice" bitch

Mars Vs Venus 2 - Toggle (新加坡女人超会算计)

This episode is SUPER ENLIGHTENING... Especially empathize with 黄嫊芳(Lina Ng)about her plight and how she was victimized because I can totally relate.

Please please please WATCH the above episode FIRST, THEN you can understand the things I'm going to say later on.

I think our personality are pretty similar. Even our 台词 sounds almost the same. The “生不如死”，"直和真", “大喇喇”. I guess you can NEVER understand our agony unless you had been victimized the same way. And the hurt when you feel that your good friends were being manipulated by the bitch(initially you wont know what happened, you'll just feel puzzled why somethings seemed to change between you and your usual good friends in the group). For 黄嫊芳's case, her good friends are 权怡凤 (Quan Yi Feng) and 王禄江 (Bryan Wong). It's only YEARS after then the truth revealed itself. I guess I'm slightly better...I took few months.... But still.........pretty stupid lah, didnt see it coming and by then it was too late. Although I'm still very glad 黄嫊芳 is able to revive her friendships, not all friendships can be revived.

Gooo watch, it's super funny too, Mars Vs Venus 2 - Toggle (新加坡女人超会算计)


The lady who had victimized 黄嫊芳 should be 欧菁仙(Sharon Au)...they used to be a team in 城人杂志(CityBeat)...never thought she is this kind of person...Gross!



If you're soooo curious about who's the other bitch who snatched and SLEPT with 权怡凤 (Quan Yi Feng)'s then-boyfriend, I was pretty kpo and found out the 林小姐 is 林惠婵。I re-watched and matched it with 黄嫊芳's lip-shape, and I confirmed!

Remember? The short-haired lady on the right in red





Figure quite good and look pretty sweet one.

Bitches dont have the word scrawled across their forehead.



Here are some signs and symptoms which I've sadly accumulated from a decade of bad experiences. I dont admit being...stupid...I can only say I'm very easily blinded with friendship and especially when people treats me very well on the surface. Ok fine la...sometimes I'm quite 白痴 also....But well...dont say I dont warn you....beware these signs before it's too late. Like me, I've discovered too late.


10 signs to recognize the "very nice" bitch


1) They act like 2 different person infront and back of you
Perhaps very proper and shy infront of, but actually very flirty and initiative behind you.

2) They act like they treat you very nice infront of all people but talks shit behind you when you are not around.

3) There are unusual and weird outbursts at you which are totally not their normal "nice" selves when you're both alone

For example, suddenly shout at you or give you a hateful expression. Because sometimes if a person have to act that they like you and be nice to you all the time, there are times when they show their TRUE selves(that they actually hate you to the core).

4) They actively try to know your friends but will never introduce you their friends even when the friends are right infront of you.

It's not that we want to know their friends, but showing such attitude means this bitch is very domineering with her friends and loves only attention on her.
Generally, there will always be shy OR friendly people. Shy people hesitate to know new people and dont really do introductions WHILE friendly people simply do the opposite. It cant be 2 different extremes just because it's with YOUR friends and HER friends.

If she's very friendly to YOUR friends but dont even mention your name to HER friends who are around, it means she is an attention whore and you need to be careful.

5) she will insists that she is not interested in your guy friends at all but yet ask all your guy friends' for their numbers and initiate to ask them out alone without asking you nor telling you.
Or they will ask the guy out with an UGLIER girlfriend of THEIRS. But nope, will never ask you EVEN though they know that guy THROUGH you.

6) instead of accompanying you to the toilet when you're tipsy, you will come back and see their hand on your beau's arm. No, they're not tipsy, at all.

7) she treats you very nice, almost too nice, which is not like any normal people will do. When someone gets overly nice, she probably has an agenda.

My example, I mentioned I like a kind of candy, she buys me that EVERYTIME we meet. Once she quietly disappeared for 15minutes then come back with that candy and told everyone she walked 500m to buy that for me. Seriously I told hubby she treats me nicer than he did! My hubby said, "That's not even normal, you should be wary of her, she may have an agenda." Too bad I didnt listen to him that time.

8) she acts like super close to you, tells everyone you 2 are the best of friends(but actually you 2 are merely OK friends), THEN they will "pretentiously leak" UNTRUE secrets of yours that make people dislike you. They are very smart and will blend half truths in it to make it seem real.

For example, sometimes my guy friends lombang(fetched) me home by cab because they stay on the way and they are gentlemen. There, this bitch told everyone I go HOME with different guy every night. Knnbccb....Yeah I know it's YOUR WISH to go HOME with every different GUY. I've no such aspiration like yours. Before that I was very close with her and sometimes I told her who I'm meeting that night. Immediately after telling her, she will spreadddd out to the entire world "Oh Titien met X for drinks and they just went home together liao. Dont know do what....heehee".

I only know YEARS later after our mutual guy friend told me about it. He was initially closer to her but finds me ke lian(可怜) being victimized for so long then secretly tell me one)

Most people WILL believe because you 2 are close or appears to be close anyway, they will assume you share dark secrets with her and she leaked them. That's why such bitches always treat you super nice and share perhaps "fake" secrets with you so that you will share your stuffs with her(like meet who tonight, dont like who etc), THEN they will spin tales to say "Hey, you know Titien actually dislike you one.....etc" Maybe some are real, but most are fake.

9) Slowly.....if her plan works ...and with you being ignorant about it...the people who were initially your closest friends get closer and closer to her but more and more distant from you day by day....
And usually you cant point a finger to it because there was NOTHING. You dont have any conflicts with your friends at all for ALL THESE MANY YEARS but suddenly there is this tension is in the air. Through time, suddenly your friends will get annoyed/pissed off with you with some little things you said by them overreacting or being too sensitive or whatsover. You cant even explain it, it's like, they just buay song you for nothing. It's just like how 黄嫊芳 mentioned how the people at her workplace SUDDENLY gets annoyed/pissed off with her when it has all along been well before the "nice bitch" comes into the picture.

10) The 10th sign and the very last symptom which showed that the "very nice" bitch had SUCCEEDED and you're DOOMED is WHEN:

Your group goes out with her without asking you to join. Nobody says anything, nobody mentions anything, YOU ARE CLUELESS.

That means, she's ready to break off this "bridge" of yours as she had probably leeched onto "another bridge" a.k.a your other friends, in the group.

Ok that's it, you're gone. Bye bye. My condolences to you. I feel you. I totally understand.



Actually, I'm not entirely clueless that some bitches are merely using me. But I thought it's okie to introduce them my friends since well, we can all hangout and have fun together. So I'm totally fine with it because I have no qualms about match-making my friends; I'm NOT a sucker for ATTENTION. I'm fine with prettier girls joining the group. But I was so wrong. Such bitches have NO conscience, they wont be grateful to you for introducing you their friends. In fact they will only try their best to kick you out of the group and to REPLACE you because they are EVIL like this.

If you wanna be TOO NICE like me, you're gonna regret like how I did.

You may think why they wanna do that? They can always stay in the group together with you, and attempt to shine more than you while embracing peace, and you will still stupidly treat her as a good friend because you are so dumb and ignorant of her intentions.

Why the need to KICK you out and repay kindness with evil?

The reason is.....they know they can never outshine you while you're in your group. So they had to take the despicable way to kick you out of it.

Don't be afraid of the bitch who screams or throws water at you, be afraid of the one who smiles at you.

Your sharing of experiences are welcome.

Sometimes it's not all about looks.

You know, I think the best time for me to blog when I'm half sober, and of course, when I feel no one is watching.

Previously I met a group of girlfriends whom I dont meet that much. And well, this group is more of the intellectual kind who talk about cars la, property la, career la etc. While I'm not very bothered by such stuff, because basically,

property? I dont know much, my hubby takes care of it.
Car? Ok I got one which is running.
Career? I got the sameeee one which has been running for more than 10 years. Imagine the sickness...

So I'm pretty ok with it.

But the thing lies with...whenever 1 became toooooo interested in the ....say...bag I'm carrying...(property or car doesnt change that fast)...I became very...embarrassingly uneasy. So the meeting went planned at XXX place and I was running late! So I grabbed the bag I was last using, checked the impulse to wear my beloved ring which my hubby gave me recently and rushed out of the house.

In the group of 4, 1 was openly admiring my bag while I was admiring hers..while the other 2 remained pretty silent.

Expected.

Thank god I didnt wear my ring.

It wasnt over 1 carat or anything, it was merely a small token from my hubby YEARS AFTER we are married! Till now, I still dont understand why. It's not as if I'm the type who will refuse his proposal if the diamond is less than 1 carat(his was). It really wasnt necessary, but of course I was really touched by his sweet gesture. But, because I care so much about my dear friends' feelings, I deliberately dont wear the ring that I hold dear. Not because of how much it's worth but because of how much those friendships worth to me.

Hubby joked, "Since you cared so much about your friends' feelings, then next time I buy you a cheap one lah."

Lol.

Sometimes I feel life's so hard. So hard for someone who cares more than she should. And because girls are really SUCH a difficult bunch.

Just few days ago, I was complaining to a gf that I was so sick of girls around me who play mindgames, like all the timeeeee. Common, we are not 17 anymore!!! We are like...erm...okie...of mature age. *kekeke* Some of them are married somemore.

I JUST name 1 example.

It has been a long time since our group meet up B(guy) so I message B on a wednesday like "hey are you free this friday? If so, I can jio the others out, like X(girl) and Y(girl) etc."

His reply was "Oh I'm not free coming friday but didnt Y(girl) said we're meeting next friday already?"

I was like thinking...hmmm....Y(girl) didnt mentioned to me at all, but well it's okie, so I replied to B(guy) and said, "Ok nevermind next week see how".

Obviously I didnt receive any messages following the week, I didnt bother much too. I have more than enough friends who love to meet up. Frankly speaking, I already know Y(girl) meant to exclude me from the outing so I'm not one to pursue too much; I'm the kind who will..silently retreat to the dark. HAHAHA.

But coming friday, somehow B(guy) messaged me and asked me if I'm coming. Seriously I told him frankly I received no such invite.

He then told me, " Y(girl) told me that she asked all of you and you all are are busy...so I'm only meeting her alone tonight."

Imagine my response is like HAHAHA please go enjoy your 2 people world, in slightly different words but I told him flatly that Y(girl) did not ask me at all and she probably prefer some ME time with HIM. Kekeke. But B(guy) was like...hey common we all are friends bla bla.

Anyway, I dont care much about it but was merely amused by Y(girl)'s antics. I know we're all friends but well....I dont know WHY she got so particular about meeting B alone OR nOt wanting me to join(she usually include the other girls, just except me). But I was very particular about thwarting Y(girl)'s plans about meeting B alone. I dont like to be a spoilsport.

However, stupid B(guy) went to ask Y(girl) can ask ME along ornot? Y(girl) said yes.
THEN, he told me SHE said YES.

Seriously, how stupid can a guy get???

FAINT!!

OF COZ if you asked her like this, of coz she said YES lah!!

So with that, B began hounding me to join their mini get-together, much to my disgust. I used all sorts of excuses to reject for few hours only to surrender eventually because my heart is so soft.

Despite so, I purposely reached 1.5hrs LATER(I'm usually punctual OK!) just because I wanna give THEM PRIVATE time. HAHAHA!


So..it was expected that when I arrived, Y(girl) said "Aiyoooo pleaseee lah, dont be sooo sensitive cannnn...I was really busy so I didnt really jio everybody etc".

But well....we...listen 就好 okie.

So I was telling my gf this tale and she too agreed this gf got too much 心机。

I thought she was soooo understanding.

Suddenly in the midst of our chill out, she said wanna take a picture. I was like okie sure, although I wasnt really into taking pics being camara-shy, but I thought well maybe she is very satisfied with her extensive plastic surgery in Korea and wanted to take pics together. As much as I'm soooo much far more inferior...sigh......I obliged. Friendship is meant more than that right?

After she took the pic, I glanced at it and asked her to send me. I was checking my whatsapp and FB stuff for like a good 5minutes and I still didnt receive that only picture. I became bored as she was super engrossed with her hp. Only then did I ask her, "You sent already? Didnt receive anything leh." She said, "Wait"

Naturally I was puzzled as it was really a long while, "Are you sending?". Finally cant restraint my curiosity and leaned over to peep.

She was editing (only)herself in our picture with some beauty app.

I was like "Oh common.....". She became slightly paiseh and said lately her skin had been acting up and she usually looked better in selfies and bla bla bla.

After awhile, she sent me our picture. Zzz.

She is reallyyyyy very pretty already, ESPECIALLY after her plastic surgery, really dont get what's her point. I'm no where being pretty, I think it's just her sense of security.

But seriously, I'm really SO SICK of all the girls' 心机, about who is more well-liked, who is more popular, who is prettier etc. Moreover, I've never intended to post the pictures as I dont like to post pictures of me drinking on my FB. She on the other hand, asked me if she can post the edited picture as she finds me "quite pretty" in that edited picture.

I was like rolling my eyes.

Frankly speaking, arent you living a tad too tiring if you always care about looking prettier than your friends etc? If I AM, I would have committed suicide a long time ago. I have super gorgeous friends, somehow. Maybe opposites attract or I give them tons of confidence. HAHAHA!!

Anyway, now I merely stick to my own types, who dont care about all these. Frankly, really a handful.


It's kinda ridiculous I'm always embroiled into such complications all the time.


These girls have to understand, sometimes it's not all about looks in life.