Just be direct with me

 对于每一段友情，我都很珍惜。即使你的-需要特别小心翼翼，我也是尽我的能力。当然，我也有我的缺点，blur, 粗支大叶。也可能老了吧，最近也真的太忙 了，没以前敏锐，没以前的那么。。。注意每一个细节。每一次的争吵，真的很心力交瘁。每一次，都要说对不起和哄你好几天，才能平息。

你说我不珍惜这段友情，我真的很失望。明明每次都是一小件事（也不是故意的），怎么到了你那边，我就像做了天大的错事。好无奈啊。没想到，我们所有的交心，所有的聚会，每一年帮你精心策划的生日，都不及这些。

只能说，我们不适合做朋友。😪 说真的，我也没什么后悔，我尽力了，我也不觉得我亏欠你，毕竟我一直用心对待你，很多东西都以你为第一考量。我也功成身退了。以后，就让另外2位 organise everything for you 吧。（OS: 我何必 🤦🏻‍♀️) 以后也不用那么小心翼翼的生活了。祝你一切安好。🙏🏻

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So I actually posted the above with some ws convo screenshots with a friend on IG. Of course, at that very moment, I just feel very.....I guess I was so pent up with emotions that I just want to have a channel to release my outburst. For, I'm feeling very unjust and fed-up with how things turned up. 

So upon my post, some of my very close friends messaged me out of concern and asked why did that particular friend reacted that way - with so much drama and angsty. And they said she probably took me for granted because I gave in to her for too long a period. A few friends who saw me teared also comforted me and said I've tried my best so just don't feel bad about it. Some said the friend is too princessy with emotional and sensitivity issues. Thanks for all the comforting words. I feel better now.

Actually, another 1 of our mutual friend also teared together with me, to my surprise. Because she is usually so bo chup. She is always taking neutral stand. Yeah it gets a tadddd irritating at times. And somehow, I guess because of our personalities, she is always very direct with me(I like it this way as I'm very direct too) and I can take all opinions. On the other hand, she is very indirect and very very mild with the other girl because she is very sensitive, gets offended/hurt/angry easily. So somehow, albeit neutral, the mutual friend always lean slightly towards the other girl. Or well, maybe she is just closer with her lah, I dont know lah.

So this mutual girl, just texted me, the 2nd time, to ask me to remove the convo screenshots post. To clarify, the princess don't have IG, some mutual friends may be in my IG list but honestly, at the point of time, I don't really care. I really don't feel I've committed SUCH a GRAVE mistake to warrant such treatment and behavior. The mutual girl claimed that it's for my own good as she's afraid my friends may misunderstand that I'm trying to act victim etc because that's how the social media works. Honestly, I told her, all my friends sided me(which is kinda expected) and even if the others dont, I ALSO DONT CARE. I'm not seeking for validation, I just want to vent. I'm tired, I'm SICK of all this shit all these years!

BUT, still, I removed that post. It's not because of me but because of that princess. Because those screenshots will probably reveal the REAL side of her which her/our friends DON'T SEE. I may be impulsive, hot-tempered but I'm not evil nor revengeful. I don't bear grudges. I've let go already, I think. I WILL let go anyway, sooner or later. Like I said, I felt better now as I've made a release. So it's fine, I removed the post. I told Miss Mutual-Neutral-Forever that I felt she persuaded me to do this is not because of me, but because of her. Because she is always so protective of her just because she has a history of Depression and is the emotional type who always easily hurt. *Rolls eyes*

I told my partner this and he scoffed, "Her, depression? Her FB is full of all the outings at the posh places with fat old uncles and Ah Gua(transvestite), having free meals and parties. Seriously, depression?" 

Precisely. 

People who know me will know that IG post of mine is not to play victim or gain sympathy points. They will know the person who always act victim, easily hurt, history of depression etc is rather the hard nut to crack. 

All along, I also don't want to say much. I mean, if that's what people perceived of her, it's her skills and talents. I don't really care also because it doesn't concerns me. But sometimes I really wonder why she can be so obsessed with how people perceived her and she went to great lengths to maintain that image, even to the huge number of strangers in her FB. Everytime we took wefies, we are not allowed to post them until after her edits. No doubt she will edit herself to be beautiful till the pics doesnt look like herself, - I mean, that's fine, yall know, vain girls. BUT, sometimes she will edit till I look distorted. Duhz I will either have a super long chin or super narrow face just so her face can be perfect. And, we wont have the original pictures at all because she wont send us, so we only have our distorted faces. Zzz. Even then, we are okie, I'm just a tad irritated because I just can't post "the moment" because the pics will only be edited after 1 or 2 days. Yes, she will edit till she is perfect, face perfect and body perfect, boobs will also make bigger those type.

Exasperated of course, but deal breaker? No. I still can accept. Nevermind la, my friends(my FB are all my real frens anyway) know how I look like anyway but yeah, thinking back, how selfish she can be?

I'm really not expecting anyone to read this or any of her friends to read this as this is an anonymous blog but really, you know that feeling of...wanna release but yet don't really want to hurt anyone in the process.

I mean, the list of the things I can't stand can go on but forget it. Just wanna release pent up anguish and not trying to make myself more irritated.

I'm just wondering how the hell can I accept all this rubbish treatment for so many years really. It's really not worth it. I must be blind. I'm just too easy going already. Everytime I was made to organize and plan. Miss Princess this cannot that cannot. I previously booked like a few places and all were rejected by her. You guys should know how hard it is to make reservations for the weekends now when the pax limits are lifted. Eventually I asked her to just decide and book because we the other 3 girls are super chin chai one. But no, Miss Princess don't make reservations one. It's the maid like me who do it. And who else but me, because the 2 other girls have their reasons(busy/sick etc). Sigh.... And I just want the group to be happy.

Maybe I should just be more bo chup abit.

Anyway, despite all my ramblings, I'm not saying she's a bad person lah. She is kind hearted and sweet sometimes when it comes to our birthday celebrations. She is just...sigh...I guess we have problems syncing because we are too different. 2 ends of a pole. I guess she is just spoilt by kind beings around her bah. But the biggest problem is, she thinks she has no problem. Faint.

It's so hard to second guess girls. I'm a girl but I behave like a guy sometimes. 

Anyway, I suddenly felt very disappointed with Miss Neutral too. I'm closest with her in the group but...should I really keep a friend who don't feel my pain, treats me as 2nd priority and not much of loyalty......

Actually I long time never cry so much already. My life has always been smooth. Perhaps that's why I pity Miss Princess and give in to her on alot of things. Whenever she complains of being broke, I will always treat her too.

Haiz, really, if you are reading this, remember, you don't need many friends, just good quality ones will do. Because toxic friends will drain your energy away from you.

Thank god I have many other great friends who aren't like that.

Toxic people

Sometimes I feel so exasperated by the kinds of people I meet. Even my friends feel very amazed - by the high % of XXX I meet in my lifetime. Due to quite a few reasons, we felt that it's more economical and effort/time saving to send our dirty laundry to laundry service. Sometimes we both go together, sometimes we take turns to go alone if we need to run some other errands. The one tending the laundry is basically a lady who is probably few years older than me(but of coz she looked much older) and she is usually just very formal with me when I go alone. Whereas everytime Bii will relate some convo she always exchange with him in a friendly way. Of course it's not surprising as he is usually very popular with ladies. The funny part is about the questions she always try to ask him. "Your house's washing machine spoilt ah", "Why never wash yourself". So Bii felt very amused because firstly, she don't need to know. Secondly, in Bii's words, "Where got ppl always ask this kinda questions one? It's like, you sell vegetable rice then you keep asking people, eh why you don wan to cook yourself". Ridiculous right. 

Then some time back, Bii came back to the car after passing her the laundry and told me amusingly, "Somehow huh, you can always evoke your same sex into buay-song you, by doing exactly nothing. HAHAHA!" I asked, "What is it this time?" Laughingly, he told me, he went alone just now and the lady finally asked, 

"The lady who sometimes come with you, she's your wife right?".

"Ya"

"Woah, so she no need to do laundry one ah"

"Ya"

"She very good life lehhhh" *sarcastic tone*

Bii related all these to me, laughing again. Zzz

Okie, after like 2 weeks, this time, it's me who went alone. As it was CNY, I cheerfully called out to her "Hello! Happy CNY!", to which she totally ignored me and only took my laundry. She didnt even look at me siah, eyes all the way on my laundry bag. Total silence. Zzz. 

Sigh, seriously. AUNTIE, it's not my fault that you gotta wash my laundry leh. And it's not my fault for having...my life?? I do admit I have a comfy life now, a great partner, great friends etc, but but, I've always been more than courteous to her, because I have a bubbly personality coz she has been doing our laundry for a period already. *Take a deep breath* Woah, seriously....bitter strangers who are simply unhappy with their lives....and jealous of other's, are simply scary shit. It's like, they just get unhappy with you for no valid reasons. Haiz...I had female friends like her before, but had ditched these toxic friends. From what I hear(somehow info have a way of travelling into my ears even when idc), their lives has gone from bad to worse. 

TO this group of Ladies, stop blaming other people for YOUR life. Stop feeling bitter, start feeling positive with a BIGGER heart so that you can allow happy things to happen(to you or to other ppl). If you always talk shit, your life will be shit. Because shit attracts shit! If you keep sharing happy things, keep feeling happy, your life will be happy because that's the law of attraction. Sometimes life may not be easy, keep a big heart, be able to feel happy for people. Good things will come your way. 

Last time I always pity this kinda people coz I feel they are like that just because their life is SAD. BUT NO, not anymore, these people totally don't deserve my empathy at all! Because they probably deserve their life from their attitude towards people. Humph!

绿茶婊 Green tea whore 王思佳 VS 赖小姐

 王思佳说綠茶婊的这段视频又被女大剪了出来，重新上传。

赖小姐尴尬到不行。其实，这也是众所周知的事了。。底上的留言啊，哈哈，笑死我。

https://fb.watch/9YtD6Eekwp/

话说，我所认识的绿茶婊也真的不少耶！这里也来分享一下，怎么样认出她们！有几点还是蛮一致的。

新加坡的綠茶婊

1) 装傻，扮清纯。。其实比谁都精，心机比谁都重

这倒是真的。瞪大眼睛，装无辜。。她们通常会扮不怎么会喝酒，不然就喝一点点就醉。然后就。。你懂的。。哈哈。而且不会猜拳，不会玩牌，什么游戏都不会。明明已经教过了，但就很会装傻，装笨，然后很喜欢用崇拜的眼神来恭维男生。尤其是玩游戏，就 “哇，你什么都会耶。哇，你好厉害！” 

明明就你（装）笨好吗。。。。*翻白眼*

2) 感情状态永远是 “Complicated"(不明确）
比如说，问她有男朋友吗？新加坡的綠茶通常会说 "it's complicated". 因为她们喜欢搞暧昧，或是在骑驴找马（has boyfriend but looking for flings or better boyfriend material)。有一个綠茶婊其实是有男友的，但骗我说单身。我还介绍她我很多男生朋友。她知道我道德观念重，如果知道她有男朋友，我是不会积极介绍男生给她。又或者，她们很喜欢埋怨男朋友或老公对她们不好，自己很不开心。其实，她们感情方面都好好的。只是想同时误导周围男生，And lead them on。

3) 超级主动，但在你面前就装不在乎
她们都会想尽一切办法进你的朋友圈，和尽量讨好你的朋友。比如说，这个女生在我面前说她想要单身，不想谈恋爱。但我却惊讶的发现她偷偷向我所有男生朋友要电话和提出邀约。比如看电影 etc。 我本来不知道。是我的男生朋友(L) 告诉我的，他说，”她连M 都约 lor！" 简直笑死我了!! 超级饥渴的。綠茶婊都是撒网型的，明明暗地里会主动联络每一个男生，但在人群里会扮很纯情，没跟谁特别熟。最毒的大概就是，比如说，明明对A一直放电，主动示好（A 就上钩了)，但又对B说A一直纠缠她，让她很烦恼。男生嘛，会觉得想得到别人得不到的(Ego. Heehee)。她们从不会承认对谁有好感，但其实暗地里都和很多男生朋友保持暧昧。在你面前又装跟他们一点都不熟。其实，她们已经主动到自己去约她们（但都不会约你一起，虽然是你介绍她们认识的）

4）人前人后2个样，表里不一, 接近你其实只是想利用你。

当有男生在时，她们说话和对你的态度是很不一样的。男生在时，就对你特别好，好到一直想伺候你，搞得你好像有公主病似的。其实，根本是她自己想做（完美）形象。比如，你认识她们一段时间了，他们明明不怎么喜欢动物/狗/猫， 但，一旦有男生在时，就扮的一副超级无敌爱狗人士，“哦，你的狗好可爱哦！”， 整个人趴在地上搂着狗，我真是服了！还有，同一个绿茶婊哦，每次我们女生聚会，都是我和另一个女生在煮食物，因为我们2个比较喜欢烹饪，也煮的比较好吃。她是很讨厌煮菜的。连碗盘都是我们自己洗的，她只负责吃。但就在一次有男生的场，她就自告奋勇要煮面给我们全部吃，一副贤妻良母的样子。真受不了。

不得不说，这个绿茶婊非常高端！

5）谎话一大堆
她们很喜欢到处跟人说你们是闺蜜（其实你们还好。。。）其实她们并没有真的把你当朋友因为她们会瞒你很多事，也撒很多谎言。很喜欢在人前故意做出特别关心你的事。但慢慢地，就会对你的朋友黑你。。说你坏话。就像慢性毒药。。她会慢慢的 “poison” 你的朋友，让你的朋友都觉得你欺负她，而她很可怜。然后，慢慢地，你的朋友就会莫名其妙的来问你，“你为什么这么对她啊。。她对你那么好！”  但她们（绿茶婊）又不会很直接的骗说你对她们怎么样，只会说，“我不知道做了什么让XXX生气，她现在很讨厌我，排挤我，我真的很伤心。。” 结果我的女生朋友就信了也来问我为什么（这么对她），真让我莫名其妙！但绿茶婊描的很黑，连我自己都很难解释。我只是说，“我没讨厌或排挤她呀”。 但每个人都把我当坏人。当我知道的时候太晚了，着了道了。

6）她们非常喜欢找机会说别的女生的坏话

然后自己装的自己像天使般。他们很聪明，也很会和所有的女生做朋友。但，就很喜欢去蹭漂亮女生的场，认识她们的男生朋友。认识后，就会偷偷拿联络方式。自己去联络那些男生但都不会约你。（第一次）她们只会约那些不漂亮的女生（通常就1个）。当你的男生朋友问你什么你没来，她们就会说，“哦，我约了啊，但XXX在忙，不能来。”  慢慢熟了以后，就只她和那男生2个人。哈，就有一次被我抓到了。（她没约我，骗男生说我不能来）但我男生朋友却求我一起加入。我说，“我才不要呢，*翻白眼*，她不就想单独见你吗，我才不凑热闹。” 我的男生朋友就说，“拜托你就来吧，每次就只我和她，其他人就离奇的没出现。她就开始一直说她男友对她多不好，就一直哭，一直喝酒，醉了又不要回家。很烦。” 我笑死，我的男生朋友还真是个木头。

好吧，我就故意迟到2个小时才出现，嘿，不错吧，给你2个小时2人世界哦！到的时候，我的男生朋友一副闷死了的脸。她看到我后，“XXX！！！我不知道你今天有空，不然我一定叫你来的！！” 演的一副什么的。。。我也懒得回应她。

她们最喜欢说其他女生不检点。有一个绿茶婊就跟其他男生说我每晚和不同男生会家。惠妮玛拉。Taxi 顺路送我回家而已，你以为每个女生像你一样那么饥渴啊，装醉又不想回家！自己想爬人家的床，就以为每个人都跟你一样。

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简直太恐怖了。希望你不会遇到綠茶婊吧！！我也是跟王思佳一样的狮子座。人比较直接，人前人后一个样。狮子座，不耍心机。男人嘛，没在缺。你要，就拿去吧。不稀罕。但，也要看人家要不要你咯。但，我男友总是说我笨，看不出真假。的确，我通常是着了道，才后知后觉。没办法啊，我也是长坏掉的（心机脸，有攻击性），但我人不坏，真的！！


祝大家。。。怎么对待人，就碰到一样这么对待你的人！
祝绿茶婊都爆肥，满脸豆子！哈哈哈！




The psychological test, I got -20%. =(
So accurate.

平凡也是一种美。哈哈！Utar Confessions #UC56358

Lol!! 当我看到这则的时候，真的是笑死我！！因为。。还真的好像是这样！Wahahaha! 我是普通的那个啦。哈哈哈！当然，我可没乱暧昧或换一直换男朋友哦！不过，桃花还真的蛮不错。经常把我那些很美的那些朋友气的暗暗咬牙。哈哈 *我什么也没做！* 

Ok anyway, 这些都不是重点。我本想回复楼主，但不方便。也有好几个美女 commented 她们是美的那个例子，又显得很无奈。

有人回，“美的不敢追”。

可能真的有比较胆小的人吧，但是我比较觉得是不够爱。如果够爱，就算你有男朋友，他们也会想把你抢过来。就算他们知道和你绝对没可能，他们还是会和你表白。。。（即使他们懂你是不会接受他们的）

其实，很简单。
1）不是每个人是颜控/外貌协会。
还是有注重内在的人的。
记得以前，我朋友堆中，有一个外貌超级普通的男孩 A，比另一个大帅哥 B 受欢迎多了。多到那位帅哥都来问我，“为什么酱多女孩子喜欢他？我真搞不懂。” 我一阵尴尬，因为我也是比较喜欢 A。哈哈哈！我也不好意思说；其实应该是因为 A 幽默风趣多了。。。B 太闷了。。。。 哈哈哈！他不知道我喜欢 A, 就开始约我出去。我的女朋友喜欢 B 大帅哥，结果我们 4个就 double-date 一起出去了。我朋友追 B, 追不到。A 追我，我们就在一起了。不过最后分手啦。他太霸道了，整天查我手机。

2）美女要求高
我有很多美女朋友。她们不是没人追。但是不知为什么，追的人很快就失去兴趣。不会长久。她们总是纳闷的问我，“不是好好的吗。。怎么突然就不怎么联系我了。。”
这个呢。。。我觉得大致上有2个原因啦。不是你让他们反感了，就是不够爱/失去兴趣。
有时 hor, 我看我的美女朋友们。。也是有点。。3条线。她们要求太~~~高了。也难怪，美女嘛。比如，一定要车接送。一定要男生买单。而且不能抠，吃要吃好的，喝酒要喝高级的。我有时在场，也蛮不好意思的。因为如果没达标，她们直接呛声，让男生没面子。重点是，她们都觉得这些都是应该的，没一丝感恩。反观我这种，ahem, 平凡的，第一次出去，就AA 制吧。如果男生请，我会说下次再请他回。我会当成交朋友，不会多想。如果是用 taxi 送我回家的，我都会很自动把 fare 分一半。不过，通常男生不会收啦。

3）美女什么都要比，什么都要赢
有时我也真的搞不懂，为什么她们这么喜欢比。比这，比那。而且超级不服输。
记得有一次，很久以前啦，我在打工的的时候。因为店当时只有我一个人看店，我偷偷跑去对面买珍珠奶茶，也拜托那个哥哥等一下可不可以泡好了就拿去对面给我，因为不能没人看店。他说可以，我很感激地谢谢他。过了一会儿，我的美女同事到了。美女还是有好处的，她每天迟到，老板都不会骂哦。当那位哥哥把奶茶拿来的时候，我就对他道谢。我的美女同事也点了珍珠奶茶，叫他等一下送过来，她才付钱。那个哥哥就说叫她自己去他的店点和自己拿（其实本来就该这样，self-service)。说完，他转身就走了。我的美女同事气到不行（其实有什么好生气？本来就是该去人家的店点和拿嘛。现在我们店有2个人了啊，我能看店。）。她立刻对他质问了（声音可不小），“为什么你可以拿给她（我）但不可以拿给我？！”
美女就是有自信。哈哈。我所没有的。
呃。。。。我以为那个哥哥会说店里忙，不能走开之类了。。。结果他直接淡淡地说，“她比你美。” 然后他就转身走了！天啊，太帅了！哈哈哈！我还是第一次看到有人敢这么对我们的店花呛声！Anyway, 我的美女同事是气到说不出话来。。我也很尴尬的干笑。。“哈。。呃。。他的眼光比较异类啦。。你别管他。。哈哈。。。”

又来到第4个原因

4）各花入各眼
啊有些人就喜欢丑的啊。或者，就是比较不一般。。。有些男的喜欢偏瘦，有些喜欢肉肉。。。不一样啦。俗称，缘分啦！哈哈哈！

哎呀，我也懒得写这么长。但大概是。。。我觉得越美的女人，她的地雷就越多。基本上相较下来，可能有一滴滴，一丝丝比较难相处，或给人多一点压力。她们也想得很多，很远。而且很奇怪，我认识的美女朋友，超级容易吃醋。也比较霸道一点，容易发脾气。所以蛮会控制她们的男友；有些男生受不了，就会提分手。那另外一种，就是太粘了。男生也受不了。
当然，不是说全部，我说的是有一些美女是这样啦。

平凡女人就是开心就好，大家就是朋友，不会想太多，不会太计较。


你们同意吗？=）


也还好这世界有不是颜控的人，要不然我们这些平凡的该怎么办啊？！哈哈！老天还是爱我们的！=DDDD

Jealousy

Read this
才華被忌？學霸女疑遭友下毒 眼瞎智商剩7歲
https://news.ebc.net.tw/News/society/155835

And let me know what you think. I dont know why I felt so deeply about this case.....to the extent that I unknowingly wrote a whole chunk of response in Chinese. Perhaps it's because I felt so sorry for the young girl. 😔

1st read it after being forwarded by an article in FB. Commented in the FB article, copied and pasted here.

人心好恐怖。😖
To: 下毒者 
她可能真的犯错，夜夜扰人眠是超级烦的事，但把她毒成残废，生不如死，还义正言辞的，我还真是傻眼。她做错，自有天收，轮不到你们用这点借口把人毒害。会有报应的。我觉得还是妒忌心作祟局多。试问这么小件事，没办法解决吗？信里一个字没提到她是怎么打扰人睡觉，为什么不提？说她不会与人相处，看不起人，是她说了或做了什么吗？一字没写。如果是真人真事，一定会说，打个比方, ＂她居然把我的课本丢到地上＂etc. 说的这么不清楚，很含糊。写了这么长，但都是很表面而没有具体的事。还一直一直说不认为她优秀，但，这重要吗？？人都给你毒残了。你是有多恨她啊？？如果她真的做了过分的事，你一定能细数道来，但是没有。以我的经验，一定是那种把小事夸大，扭曲事实，试图掩盖自己的妒忌的人假装自己其实是受害者。

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My thoughts....

信里一直没说她到底是怎么扰人清梦，但我怀疑朱令可能是练琴。而信里一直不提，是因为写信者有多么不想承认朱多有才艺。*妒忌* 而且，这也不是她们要毒死她的原因。如果真的是怕她吵，可以打坏她的琴，或偷了去。安眠药，等等。孙维家里势力这么大，不能逼朱退学，换学校吗？能的。

Read this too
http://www.epochtimes.com/gb/13/5/19/n3874582.htm

她被毒到残废的确是意外。写信人没说谎。因为她们根本就是想慢慢的折磨，然后毒死她。根本不想她活着。

她们先把她毒瞎，是要她再也不能弹琴。
放毒在shampoo, 是要她头发全掉光，不再美丽。她被医好了。。再度回来学校。。

傻瓜。。。为什么回去。。。你真的不知道你的室友有多妒忌你，多恨你吗。。还是你不愿意相信。。。

第2次就放毒在她的杯。。是想要了她的命！报说她体内的铊毒的份量已经远远能制人于死地了。

你知道女人圈子有多恐怖吗。。。
有时，那个看似站在你这一边的好友，听着你所有秘密，谁对你好啊，谁喜欢你啊，你喜欢谁啊你只跟她说。。她总是假装跟你多好，但总是偷偷约你的朋友/死对头，说你坏话，尝试全拉拢在一起。而你一无所知，因为你是这么信任她。

其实，她可能就是最妒忌你的人，就等待着一次机会把你板倒。等到你发现的一天，都太晚了。

我的老公和好朋友总说，＂你就长得一副很精明的脸，人也不笨，怎么会给人骗啊？"

" 我。。。我。。。😭＂对啊，为什么。。太相信了，相信友情。。。

爱情可以蒙蔽一个人的眼睛，友情也可以！

就是长得太精明了，才会很容易给人说是心机重的那个。 💔
有时，真希望自己长得无害点，可怜点，无辜点。。。生性又懒得解释。总是觉得懂我的人不必解释，不懂的又何必解释。但结果就。。。。😅😅😅

所以啊。。。不用怕 明敌(人), 要怕假闺蜜！！记住啊，千古名言！

新加坡的綠茶婊

這群人 TGOP X 阿翰 │綠茶婊的極致呈現 Story of a Pretentious Girl



Saw this video circulating on Facebook, pretty funny. It talks about 綠茶婊(pretentious girls) in Taiwan. But I feel it's a little different from the 綠茶婊 in Singapore. Lol. Come come. Let me tell you the difference and similarities for Singapore 綠茶婊. HAHAHA! Though actually I'm quite lousy in recognizing them one...usually is after that kanna already then know...Sigh....

新加坡的綠茶婊

1) 她们不一定素颜
是这样的，因为新加坡女生普遍不是很会化妆，无法做到假素颜。因为天气炎热，皮肤没有台湾女生好，所以很少女生真的会素颜。（好羡慕台湾女生的皮肤呢！)

2) 装傻，扮清纯。。其实心机比谁都重
这倒是真的。瞪大眼睛，扮清纯。。她们通常会扮不怎么会喝酒，不然就喝一点点就醉。然后就。。你懂的。。哈哈。而且不会猜拳，不会玩牌，什么游戏都不会。明明已经教过了，但就是装迟钝，还是每次说不会。

其实装笨这回事不是很受新加坡男生欢迎。普遍新加坡男生喜欢聪明女生。我带过一个綠茶婊女生来和我朋友聚会。过了几次，我的男生朋友说，“她不会猜拳，不会玩游戏，又不能喝。她输了，你还得帮她喝。你明明是能喝的，但一帮了她，就很容易醉。别带她来了啦！” 又有另一个男生朋友说，“她是有多笨啊，这个（游戏）不会，那个不会，是装的吗？”

Hmmm.....不过，倒有一个狮子座男生还蛮吃这一套的啦。哈哈哈！她会一直撒娇(sai nai) ，叫他挡酒。狮子座男生就很爽啊！哈哈哈！

3) 感情状态永远是 “Complicated"(不明确）
比如说，问她有男朋友吗？新加坡的綠茶通常会说 "it's complicated". 因为她们喜欢搞暧昧，或是在骑驴找马（has boyfriend but looking for flings or better boyfriend material)。有一个綠茶婊其实是有男友的，但骗我说单身。我还介绍她我很多男生朋友。结果发现，她房东根本就是她的同居男友。（她知道我道德观念重，如果知道她有男朋友，我是不会积极介绍男生给她。）又或者，她们很喜欢埋怨男朋友或老公对她们不好，自己很不开心。其实，她们感情方面都好好的。只是想同时误导周围男生，and lead them on。

4) 超级主动，但在你面前就装不在乎
她们都会想尽一切办法进你的朋友圈，和尽量讨好你的朋友。比如说，这个女生在我面前说她想要单身，不想谈恋爱。但我却惊讶的发现她偷偷向我所有男生朋友要电话和提出邀约。比如看电影 etc。 我本来不知道。是我的男生朋友(L) 告诉我的，他说，”她连M 都约 lor！" 简直笑死我了!! 綠茶婊都是撒网型的，明明暗地里会主动联络每一个男生，但在人群里会扮很纯情，没跟谁特别熟。最毒的大概就是，比如说，明明对A一直放电，主动示好（A 就上钩了)，但又对B说A一直纠缠她，让她很烦恼。男生嘛，会觉得想得到别人得不到的(Ego. Heehee)。她们从不会承认对谁有好感，但会突然跟某个男生朋友很好。

5）人前人后2个样，表里不一, 其实只是利用你。
她们很喜欢到处跟人说你们是闺蜜（其实你们还好。。。）其实她们并没有真的关心你。很喜欢在人前故意做出特别关心你的事。但慢慢地，就会对你的朋友黑你。。说你坏话。就像慢性毒药。。她会慢慢的 “poison” 你的朋友，让你的朋友都觉得你欺负她，而她很可怜。

6) 突然来亲近你
她们通常是。。平时没跟你联络。但可能刚分手或离婚，就突然来联系你。又或者，她在外头碰到你和你的朋友门（尤其又当你有帅哥朋友），她们就突然来跟你友好。




简直太恐怖了。希望你不会遇到綠茶婊吧！！

Sigh....really wish I have a guardian angel around me to warn me of such bitches.





The psychological test, I got -20%. =(
So accurate.

She don't understand

Seconds ago, I was logged in to my usual blog and wanted to blog an entry. But I stood staring at it, typing and deleting as I just couldn't trust typing an entry that wouldn't be offensive to any friends who may read it.

End up it's just impossible. And duhz...it's sure a chore to blog an entry with SO MUCH CARE for fear of causing any ill feelings or hurting anyone. I mean, typing wise, I still can re-read umpteen times and edit before posting. So I always try to be careful. However sometimes, in real life, my words are out before I can stop it.

SO

I always don't understand why there are so many people dropping offensive and negative comments all over other peoples' posts or in whatsapp

Didn't their parents taught, "If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything."

Anyway, I probably shouldn't care less about these people; just can't help feeling curious about their upbringing.

Let's talk about friends around us.

Do you have those irritating kind of friends around in your mutual circle whom you super buay tahan but yet have been silently enduring their presence and the things they say.

While I may be super direct and cutting to the point here, I'm actually very soft towards my friends. It became a habit. And sometimes I really wonder is it worth it to be "that nice" to them when they ain't that nice at all.

My hub had always told me just avoid some of them but I told him it's difficult because most are mutual friends where we meet in groups. It's quite hard to avoid unless you avoid the whole group together. And actually, most are nice except 1 or 2.

I was super attitude and carefree when I was younger; in my teens. I think I was happier then despite earning much lesser. If I didn't like what a friend was saying, I will immediately refute back(I don't shout though). But now I merely just smiled and don't reply. Or else I will just settle very amicably with a neutral comment.

But, why some people just don't get it.
Just don't get it.

Perhaps because everyone around them is as nice as me, just giving them their way instead of pointing what they said aren't true everytime. Or what they said aren't appropriate at all.

I guess my temper has improved tremendously over the years. Haha.

Sigh.....but I really wonder when I will burst. I really almost did a few days ago.


My dog is sick. She actually needs a surgery. You can imagine I was pretty worried about it. So in our group chat, I was discussing with another friend about it since she had a dog...sigh... And she was sharing her insights as well as how/why her dog died 1-day post-op. As much as we didn't get overly emo in the chat....trying to sound sensible and logical discussing the merits of letting our precious going through an operation, it's obvious that HELLO we're kinda emotional on this topic as her dog had died and my dog can DIE on the surgery table because she's not young anymore.

Throughout the lengthy chat, this mutual girlfriend of mine(let's call her B) actually didn't comment at all. Which I'm glad. Because nothing good ever come out from her mouth; either she's being sarcastic or snide, or she's belittling you for being dumb because she always assumes you can't comprehend her "higher teachings". She didn't know how many times I've internally rolled my eyes at her sharing of "knowledge".

And really, she finally commented something after all the group convo.


"It's all part of aging".



Mother-f--------

*Take a deep breath*


As usual, that irritating, snide attitude for every topic, and I can almost imagine her face and expression while saying it. "You know, it's common," that kind of of tone and attitude.

If I didn't care about this friendship, I would have said right to her face, "Yes b*tch, I know it's all part of aging and please say something I don't know because it really doesn't help much here when I'm worrying that my dog dies!"

I probably shouldn't expect that much from a un-emotional person who prefer to let her dad decompose without an intact face and deprive him to have a last look at all his loved ones who had came to visit him at his funeral BECAUSE she wanted to save a mere S$1000 jab.

And what, she's spending so much money doing eyelid surgery, threadlifts, botox, fillers and monthly beauty treatments that costs over S$1000 every month on herself. But of course, she is so desperate to have someone take her because while all of us are married, she is the only one single and nearing 40s.
I'm so sorry, I have nothing against singles at all but really simply bth her.

I'm really so tired. So tired of listening to her sharing how "successful" she is, how much her boss likes her, how much her colleagues dislike her because they are jealous of her, how many suitors etc.
Can't forget how she snidely remarked her loggerhead is very stupid for crossing her paths because she is her boss's pet. Zzz "So what if I'm late, my boss likes me what".

Will she ever understand people dislike her is NOT because they are jealous and her, and seriously, what's there to be jealous of her? Only we close friends will know, her private properly is her mum who paid the down payment and monthly installment shared equally with her sis(but she has the master room). But she told everyone she owned the private property solely. As for the car she's driving, where she said it's drawing green eyes from her colleagues, everytime I feel like telling her "Why not just admit to them it's just a 2nd hand car which left only 1 year? They will never be "jealous" of you and black-mouth you then." But of course, I know she won't.

This egoistic lady, insists on driving a conti car even when she can't afford so every year she buys those which left 1 year or 6months. Yup, so she changed car every year. Damn free loh, keep do the car insurance and all those buy/sell thingy. Seriously, have you ever seen a lady who loves bragging so much with false pretenses? I think next year she will change to a Porsche liao, albeit one which left 1 year maybe.

When will she ever understand, with such an ugly heart and a shrewd mouth, no matter how pretty, no man will ever want her. But no, I still don't feel she's pretty. I may be biased though. =)